Not long after, someone greeted me from behind. He was a young Tibetan in his mid twenties and was making merits after work. He wondered why I was there and shared a bit about their daily routine, they would come to Labrang and circumambulate 3 rounds in the evening. He spoke fluent Chinese, and seemed a helpful guide. He recommended me to take a shared cab to Sangke Grasslands the next day instead of flagging down a cab which would cost a hefty sum. Theconversation soon turned to ourselves. He had recently gotten a job as a police officer in Xiahe City and knew quite a bit about the economies of other countries which was quite unusual, wanted to travel, wanted to learn foreign languages – he loved the west. Which was nice to hear until he made a request that stunned me momentarily.
I was more disappointed than anything. My bubbly image of an honest, kind-loving Tibetan which had always held true till today had suddenly burst in an instance. I had let myself down for naively thinking that he was genuinely interested in friendly exchange, that I would never hear such a request from a Tibetan.
“You’re the first Tibetan person I’ve come across who has made such a request.”
“I’m different from the other Tibetans. They are too…traditional. Especially the girls.”
I could not believe the irony of the situation. We were walking a circumambulatory route that is supposedly sacred.
“You are from a big city. I thought you would be more open.”
“Then maybe I’m different from the others in the big cities”
He began to narrate a story of his Tibetan friend who had a rendezvous with a girl from Guangzhou. He tried to convince me, saying we could do a quick one. His eyes started to scan the area, his finger pointing towards bits of shrubbery on the slopes. All this while, we never stopped circumambulating the monastery and I tried to hide my disappointment. Somehow, I trusted that he would not use force and we simply continued walking amongst the pilgrims far and between. He may have made what I thought an unthinkable request but remained respectful and there was no reason why I would embarrass him by creating a scene amidst the other pilgrims. When we finally got to the entrance of Labrang Monastery, I bade farewell.
“Alright. I’ll go another round. We Tibetans need to circumambulate three rounds, remember?” he said.
“Sure, I’ll go off first then.”
“Don’t think too much about what I said.”
“I won’t.”
It was still another half hour till dark and I would totally have loved to make another circumambulation but I could only come back the next evening to do so in the current circumstances. Whilst I appreciate that he remained reserved in his mannerisms, I was gripped by a growing sense of fear. My pace fastened as I walked through Xiahe City back to my hostel. The fact that my dormitory room did not have a lock gave me a sense of unease. I knew that the Tibetan family were trustworthy but I was uncomfortable with the way they could simply appear in front of me by opening a door without warning. I was approaching a hotel with bright lights right in front of me. A group of Mainland tourists had arrived at its doors and the receptionist was settling them in. Suddenly, I was inside this hotel, asking the Tibetan lady receptionists for the price of a room. They only had the standard room for 120 yuan per night. I was on the fence, I told them I might come over later.
I hastened my pace, wondering what I should do. My hostel was just down the street from the brightly lit hotel. The skies were darkening as I half-ran down the poorly lit street back to my hostel. I had already paid for two nights at this hostel and staying in a hotel for 120 yuan was not accounted for when I planned my journey. I decided that the deciding factor will be in my room when I got back to the hostel. If there is another female traveller, I will stay, if I appear to be alone I will change my accomodation.